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Ladies, don’t short yourselves on the orgasms

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All is not fair, or equal when it comes to climaxing in hetero relationships, according to science.

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A new study finds women who climax less end up expecting less pleasure in bed, and that’s not healthy.

Researchers from Rutgers University say they found a noticeable gap between what men and women expect when it comes to intercouse.

Overall, when men and women reach orgasm more frequently during intimacy, they want and expect that same level of pleasure in the future. However, when the opposite happens, people end up expecting less pleasure from their romantic relationships.

With that in mind, the team examined this orgasm gap, which they describe as a well-established phenomenon that sees men climax more often than their female partners. Through a survey of 104 sexually active couples, results show women are more likely to end up in a “cycle of inequality” in their relationships — rather than seeing their sexual satisfaction improve over time.

The Rutgers team asked each couple about how often each partner orgasms, their ideal amount of sexual pleasure, and how often they expect to climax during sex. Women who had fewer orgasms reduced the importance they placed on reaching this level of pleasure.

“Our expectations are shaped by our experiences, so when women orgasm less, they will desire and expect to orgasm less,” says Grace Wetzel, a Rutgers social psychology doctoral student, in a media release. “If women do lower their expectations in this way, the more orgasm inequality may perpetuate in relationships.”

Wetzel says that a person’s expectations influence their future actions, and whether or not they pursue further wants and desires.

“The orgasm gap has implications for women’s pleasure, empowerment, sexual satisfaction and general well-being,” the researcher adds. “Importantly, this is a gender equality issue. Women are learning to expect and be satisfied with less in their sexual interactions with men.”

The study is published in the journal Sex Roles.

With science backing the outcomes, ladies – it’s time to give yourself what you deserve – some pleasure! Orgasms are good for the soul, mind, and body. Below is a list of the best rated “self-massagers” on Amazon.

By Connie Smith

TV Producer, Content Creator, mom, and a human.